How grandmother may help a baby if his mom is treating baby not good?
mago asked:
There was a lot of thing what this mom shouldn’t do with that baby.
Grandma tried a lot of ways to change it. She was kindly talking to that mom, she was keeping eye and tried to prevent a lot of things. For example 2 weeks baby shouldn’t sleep on the stomach or baby shouldn’t be tightly enveloped in a flannel diaper too long and so go on.
How to do this all:
to avoid conflicts and do not hurt feelings of young mom and to help baby?
There was a lot of thing what this mom shouldn’t do with that baby.
Grandma tried a lot of ways to change it. She was kindly talking to that mom, she was keeping eye and tried to prevent a lot of things. For example 2 weeks baby shouldn’t sleep on the stomach or baby shouldn’t be tightly enveloped in a flannel diaper too long and so go on.
How to do this all:
to avoid conflicts and do not hurt feelings of young mom and to help baby?
well it is her baby, let her be the mom. you can offer advice, but dont try to do her job. when i first had my baby every one kept telling me things about when they had kids, and it was all old info that has been changed. i know its a different deal here, but think about if it was you, you wouldnt like someone telling you how to do everything with your baby. i would say skip the lil things and remind her of the big things that could really endanger the child ie sleeping on the belly
Are you talking about the baby being swaddled?
I don’t think swaddling does any harm. Belly sleep is a risk factor for SIDS but swaddling should be fine.
Honestly unless she is risking the babies life (which she is not) I woudl not say anything as you will cause major problems.
Be supportive of mom. She will parent her way to her child. Save advice until either asked or it becomes an endangerment issue.
I think you need to understand the difference between offering tips and advice and demanding they be accepted and implemented.
As with any new thing we do in life those that have experience offer advice. However these bits of information come from many people (all with good intentions) and it is up to the person doing the learning to decide what is important to them.
Keep up the good work Grandma but let the new parents decide.